DJ Duk

August 03, 2007

Charge (without your consent)

Change happens every day and in more ways then can be counted. Some of these changes are small and some are large. Some changes affect you every day while others you will never know about. But enough of the sappy, mellow drama, day time talk show advise. You didn’t come here for a hollow excuse and a pat on the head! On with the real stuff!

There are several proven methods of dealing with change you can’t control.

Method 1: Don’t care.
If you don’t care about other people or the world around you, then you are not likely to care if it changes. This is the method I use. Apathy is a very useful method of reducing stress. Just let it all go, its mostly useless noise anyway. People around you are going to be generally useless waist of biomaterial anyway, why not just let them do whatever they want, even if this means there own self-destruction. It’s like watching someone burn down there own house, offer help, ask if they understand the consequences but in the end its there house, let them do what they want. If you really embrace this idea the world around you becomes little more then a place you have to walk though on your way someone else.

Method 2: Take action
Most change that upsets people is the change that they have no control over. I say the way to fix that is to take control. For an example I will now tell you a true story from my own life (this is your que to snuggle up with your favorite stuffed penguin Mr. Duk). At the place I work the powers that be decided to bring in someone new to do my job, and while I was not fired I was demoted. This fun little Monday surprise was upsetting. Needless to say I was not happy with the change (and who would be), there was also not much I could do about it…or was there. I was basically faced with 3 options. I could quit, I could work with the new guy or, go on a killing spree (this last option it always a consideration). I decided (see I’m making choices now) to work with the new guy and learn all I could form the situation. I choose to view this as a way to learn, grow and gain new experience. Even if that learning is “wow, this sucks, but at least I learned and can move on to something better now”.
The bottom line here is that while changes often happen to us we can strike back by making changes of our own and thus retaining a measure of control in our own lives. Most situations are easer to accept if you can make some changes of your own.

Method 3: Let our anger destroy you
I’m not sure this is a good option, especially if your anger does not motivate action or understanding. But you can - if you want - let it all go to your head…so to speak. You can look at the would around you and your life as an uninterrupted string of things you can do nothing about. Let despair and fear take hold. You can’t control anything, the world does to you what it wants and you are just a puppet dancing for someone’s amusement. Live your life in quite distain (because they won’t let you speak out) until the day your set free by death. Don’t try and change a thing because it won’t work. Don’t try and understand the change or see the greater good because there is none and even if there was you would never understand it. Live your whole life as a victim.
Don’t kid yourself, there are people who live a life as I just described, and the sad part is they are completely right. If you don’t create your own future, someone else will do it for you.

I hope this offers at least some help in your day to day lives. If you have any questions please fell free to leave a comment.

Posted by Bailey at August 3, 2007 08:32 AM